So when the walk and talk therapy idea first popped into my head, I was so excited. It was like, "finally! Something that makes sense to me and the way I want to work". I just couldn't stop thinking about it!
And I did waste a lot of time thinking about it. I thought about how it could work, what the there risks were, how realistic was it to make this a thing and the most common one: "Can I actually do this?
But then I decided to just keep going, to stay curious and eventually to just have a go!
When I was in my second year of my psychology degree I sucked at statistics. It was one of those subjects where if you missed one little thing, nothing made sense, ever again! Not being dramatic at all! Also, our uni decided that the final exam is worth 70% of your final mark. That pretty much meant that if you fail the exam, no matter how well you did up to that point, you failed the subject!
I also sucked at taking exams. So I decided that I was giving up and throwing in the towel on this life long dream of being a psychologist and helping people. And I mean it when I say lifelong.
I had this share journal that I kept with a friend in year 7 (I lived in Germany at the time) and we would write an entry one day, then give the journal to my friend at school, then she would write in etc. you get it. So as early as year 7 I wrote about being a psychologist and she wrote about becoming a social worker, both happened! That's why I love journaling, but that's a topic for another day!
Anyway! Back to my original story; so I decided this lifelong dream is dead because, well I can't do stats! So I told my dad and this is how that went:
dad: wow, you're just going to quit
me: yep, I tried, I suck, I'm out
dad: well what happens if you fail? Can you do this subject again?
me: yes you can do it again
dad: and then if you fail again, can you do it again?
me: fail twice? Yeh whatever, yes you can do it again
dad: and then if you fail again, can you...
me: yes dad I'm pretty sure you can do it like 3 times
dad: well do you think that by the 3rd time, you'd have at least half of the stuff down? You know since you've been through it and the exam a couple of times?
me: yeh i think so
dad: so there you go, you passed! Never say "no I can't do this, I give up! Just ask yourself "HOW can I do this?" and let the answers come. There's your answer; just do it 3 times, no need to give up!
So I took that exam and I failed, and then I took the subject again, and I passed and the rest is history! I wouldn't be sitting here right now writing this if I didn't move past that roadblock, failed and tried again!
In that moment, my dad gifted me the most valuable mindset of all, one where I knew that I never needed to give up, I just needed to look for different ways to do things. And that's what I did!
Whenever I thought things like:
"I don't think I can explain this to the referring doctor", I changed it to: "How do I explain this to the referring doctor?"
Whenever I thought:
"I don't think I can do this, it's so overwhelming!", I thought: "How can I do this so it's not so overwhelming?"
That's the mindset that worked for me, that's what led me to all the answers and a multiple 6-figure business in a short amount of time. Listen my dad also taught me that hard work is important work, so this thing won't just create itself, you will need to put in the time. But it is possible, it will take off and you will find the how!